Melting Vanilla

At Melting Vanilla, we're dedicated to helping couples enhance their sex lives by easing into those sometimes blush-inducing conversations about sexual desires. Our app allows partners to anonymously swipe through cards expressing a variety of interests, from playful flirtations to wild fantasies. When both partners swipe "yes" or "maybe" on the same card, they discover a mutual match, opening up new avenues for connection.

But beyond igniting sparks in relationships, all this swiping generates a wealth of anonymized data that offers a fascinating glimpse into America's intimate preferences. And since we could all use a break from the political fray, we thought it'd be fun to explore how different states stack up in the realm of kinkiness.

Editor's Note: This is all in good fun. The data isn't from a controlled survey and comes with its fair share of limitations. But who doesn't enjoy a data-driven discussion that adds a spicy twist to the usual red vs. blue narrative?

Which States Are the Kinkiest?

Using our "level" ratings assigned to each card—ranging from 1 (vanilla) to 5 (extra spicy)—we calculated the average weighted level and a "kinkiness score" for each state. The kinkiness score factors in both the adventurousness of the swipes and the total number of swipes from that state, normalizing for population.

New York currently tops the chart with a kinkiness score over 14, proving that the city that never sleeps might be up all night for different reasons! Texas comes in strong at second place—everything's bigger in Texas, including, apparently, their sense of adventure.

States like Georgia and Alabama also make the top ten, suggesting that Southern hospitality might extend to being open-minded in the bedroom. And who would have thought that New Mexico, with its serene deserts and rich history, would rank so high? Perhaps there's more heating up in the Land of Enchantment than just the chili peppers!

On the flip side, some states seem to prefer keeping things more traditional. It appears that in Delaware, the First State, residents might be more reserved in their intimate explorations—or perhaps they're just keeping their secrets well-hidden!

Which Kinks Are the Most Common?

Beyond geography, we dug into which categories of desires are most popular across the nation. Here's what America is collectively into.

Roleplay takes the crown, suggesting that Americans love stepping into different characters and scenarios to keep things exciting. Exhibitionism and Voyeurism come in close, highlighting a fascination with the thrill of being seen or seeing others in intimate moments. Rough Play and Group Activities also feature prominently, indicating a desire to explore more instinctual or communal experiences.

It's interesting to see how these preferences cut across state lines and political affiliations, uniting us in unexpected ways.

The Final Scoop

As the official votes continue to roll in, one thing is clear: when it comes to intimate desires, Americans are more adventurous and open-minded than stereotypes might suggest. Perhaps these shared interests can serve as a reminder that beneath our diverse backgrounds and beliefs, we have more in common than we think.

So, if you're curious about where you and your partner fit into this intriguing tapestry—or if you're looking to explore new horizons together—why not give Melting Vanilla a try?